Now, I am puzzled by this because the person asking me has never married and I don't want to ruin anyone's perception on what is or what is not. After all, I have 1 failed marriage under my belt. Who is to say that my experience won't cloud my opinion?
So, my silly side decided to 'play'.
I sent him a definition of "soulmate" according to the Merriam Webster dictionary.
There is much background to this story than what is visible on the naked eye. But for now, lets stick to the question.
Soulmate, is made up of 2 words. The soul and the mate.
Where is the mate when the soul is denied?
The mate only appears when the soul is recognised.
Many think that soulmate(s) are persons with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity, from sex to spiritual affinity.
The current usage of the concept points to a romantic partner.
However, there is a definition which is beautiful, it is Theosophic:
According to Theosophy, whose claims were modified by Edgar Cayce, God created androgynous souls—
equally male and female. Later theories postulate that the souls split into separate genders, perhaps because they incurred Karma while playing around on the Earth, or "separation from God.". Over a number of reincarnations, each half seeks the other. When all karmic debt is purged, the two will fuse back together and return to the ultimate.
In my experience, I have known persons who thought they had found their soul-mate...their spiritual soul-mate that is, as this seems to be the highest in the man-made classification. Then something happens and they break up....so what happened?
A soul takes on physical form in a body to experience and learn.
That creates a signature frequency, or vibration of that being.
When two such beings resonate together it means that there is a spiritual-physical affinity, not either or, but spiritual-physical together.
And so one effects the other through vibes even by living far away...even by being silent there can be a lot of communication between them.
Even though they have different karma or life lessons, they are connected through their Higher Self.
If you mix the definition of marriage with the definition of soulmate(s), that's when your judgement is clouded.
Marriage has nothing to do with finding a soulmate(s).
Think about those who went into polygamy. Those who married many times. Then there are those who falls under the LGBT community category. Whose to say that they have not found their soulmate(s)?
It is more important to focus on learning your lessons and connecting with your Higher Self than trying to sift through the dating site in the hope to find your "soulmate".